Bad Family Get Together, Again!

OMG! I'm just writing yesterday about Family Get Togethers, and how ours is the worst because of my Mom . . . well, once again, today with the family is ruined because she is a nut. I know that sounds horrible, talking about my Mom like that, but she is awful.

She just recently visited Canada with her senior friends group (she is 78), and they went to some shows while there. There was one show that was music on stag while they had dinner (dinner and music she called it) . . . the music was BLUE GRASS. Now I like some country, but not much, and I really don't like Blue Grass (which she knows). But she does, and so she bought the DVD of the performance.

After we had our Christmas Lunch, and then opened presents . . . she puts in the DVD and tells us all to be quite and listen. Once it started, and it was Blue Grass, I asked how long the DVD was? "Two hours, and its the best show you will ever see!" I almost cried . . . to think I was going to sit through 2 hours of something I hated. I said, out loud to everyone. . . "after we watch this, I have an ACDC concert DVD that we are all going to be forced to watch!" She didn't think it was funny. She can't see that you can't force someone to watch or listen to music they don't like.

But . . . trying to not cause a problem, I sat there watching this awful Blue Grass band play. And I have been forced to watch and listen to a lot of Blue Grass in my life, so I know that this band really wasn't good.

The camera man was going around the audience, and Mom said, "now look for me, I might be on the DVD, they were taking pictures." I asked if they told her that the DVD she was purchasing was one made that night, or if they already had some made up to sell from prior shows, and she didn't know.

She was angry that I was talking during the music.

So I kept quiet and just started looking for her in the audience, when finally I saw her. "LOOK MOM, THERE YOU ARE!" She didn't even look at me, just completely ignored me with a smirk on her face. I said, "Mom, did you hear me, you were there in the audience, they just showed you, did you see it?" She said, in a smarty pants tone, "I tried to tell you, but you wouldn't listen!" I just got up and told everyone bye and we left.

Maybe I was being a baby, but she just gets under my skin. And as usual, she will call me tomorrow, and act as if nothing happened. If I bring up the issue, she will say, "you're silly, you misunderstood, or . . . I didn't do/say that," because she has done that all my life, no matter how many witnesses are in the room, they don't want to argue with her, so they will just say, I didn't hear anything, I didn't see anything.

I have to keep telling myself that I have a nut for a Mom, just to teach me how not to be with my child, or (one day) with grandchildren. I never want to be like her, and I will go out of my way not to force anyone to listen to something they don't like, and I will not put down something they like, as if my taste in something is better or the only way to go.